Дать взрослому ребёнку деньги на первоначальный взнос за жильё vs. сохранить собственную пенсию
Если вы действуете
Подарить деньги на первый взнос
15%
Если вы бездействуете
Не дарить деньги на первый взнос
35%
Доля тех, кто впоследствии жалеет о каждом выборе. Столбцы и полный реестр показаны ниже.
Финансы
Последнее обновление 2026-05-13
Качество доказательств 3.88/5
Оценка по восьми измерениям согласно
рубрике качества
. Каждое измерение оценивается от 1 до 5.
D1 Проверка источников
4/5
D2 Авторитетность и независимость источника
4/5
D3 Точность уровня сожаления
2/5
D4 Сопоставимость источников
3/5
D5 Шаблон Гиловича
5/5
D6 Качество текста
4/5
D7 Полнота оговорок
5/5
D8 Качество выборки
4/5
Среднее3.88/5
Косвенные данные — для этого решения не существует прямого исследования сожалений. Показатели получены из оценок удовлетворённости и данных о барьерах доступа, а не из вопросов, непосредственно касавшихся сожалений. Смотрите оговорки ниже.
Сожаление о действии
Подарить деньги на первый взнос
15%
15% родителей, помогавших купить дом, приняли более низкий уровень жизни в результате (прокси финансового вреда, а не измеренное сожаление)
Американские родители, оказавшие помощь с первоначальным взносом взрослым детям
ретроспективно, без фиксированного периода
Сожаление о бездействии
Не дарить деньги на первый взнос
35%
35% покупателей, получивших помощь с первоначальным взносом, говорят, что не смогли бы купить свой дом без неё (прокси барьера доступа к жилью, а не измеренное сожаление)
Американские родители со взрослыми детьми, которые не смогли бы позволить себе жильё без помощи
ретроспективно, без фиксированного периода
% сожалеют об этом выборе
Подарить деньги на первый взносНе дарить деньги на первый взнос
15%35%
inaction dominates — Бездействие преобладает — большинство сожалеет, что не действовали.
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A Legal & General study of 2018 US data, reported by Money, found that parents gave their adult children an average of $39,000 to help buy a home. Among the parents who provided that help, 15% said they had to accept a lower standard of living as a result, 14% reported feeling less secure about their financial future, and 7% postponed retirement by an average of four years. On the inaction side, there is no direct survey of parents who declined to help; the closest measurable signal of the stake involved comes from LendingTree’s 2026 down-payment survey, in which 35% of buyers who received family help said they could not have bought their home when they did without it. Both figures are proxies, not “do you regret your choice?” questions, so this entry is published as proxy_only.
The structural driver of inaction regret is the widening gap between housing costs and first-time-buyer incomes. When a parent can observe a concrete, durable consequence of withholding the gift — a child who, by the recipients’ own account, could not have bought without help — the regret becomes harder to rationalize away over time. This fits Gilovich and Medvec’s temporal pattern: the costs of inaction compound as the counterfactual (what homeownership would have meant for the child’s wealth-building) becomes clearer with each passing year. By contrast, action regret among parents who gave the gift tends to be more immediate and often fades once the child is stably housed.
The two sides measure different populations and are not strictly comparable. The 15% action figure captures concrete financial harm to giving parents, not emotional regret per se; a parent who accepted a lower standard of living but feels the gift was worthwhile would still be counted. The 35% inaction figure is a recipient-reported barrier, not a measure of how often non-helping parents regret their choice — no survey of that population was located. Separately, Bankrate finds that 61% of parents of adult children have made some financial sacrifice to help them, with 37% sacrificing retirement savings, underscoring how common the trade-off is. The comparison is most applicable to families with enough assets to make the gift a genuine choice and where children face real housing-access barriers; for parents with inadequate retirement savings of their own, the decision carries a different risk calculus the aggregate figures do not capture.
Источники: действие
Реестр утверждений
Каждое число ниже — это то, что сообщил источник, с дословной цитатой, на которую мы опирались, и тем, как мы пришли к нашей цифре. Нажмите на ссылку, чтобы проверить самостоятельно.
1/1 источников независимо дословно сверены с указанным источником
[1]Money (reporting Legal & General research) — Parents Are Giving Their Kids an Average of $39,000 to Buy a Home — and It Could Jeopardize Their Own Retirement
Проверено
Авторитетный справочник
Parents give an average of $39,000 to help an adult child buy a home; among parents who helped, 7% postponed retirement by an average of four years, 14% felt less secure about their financial future, and 15% accepted a lower standard of living
Выдержка
“"Parents are giving their adult children an average of $39,000 to help them buy a home ... 7% postponed retirement (by an average of four years) due to their help ... 14% reported feeling less secure about their financial future ... 15% said they had to accept a lower standard of living as a result of giving the money."
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Данные источника:
2019-05-17
Дата обращения
2026-06-30
Проверка
Выдержка независимо повторно загружена и подтверждена слово в слово по указанному источнику в ходе нашей проверки достоверности.
Расчёт
Money (May 17, 2019) reporting a Legal & General study of 2018 US data on parental home-buying help ("Bank of Mum and Dad"). The 15% figure is the share of gift-giving parents who reported accepting a lower standard of living -- the broadest reported adverse financial outcome, used here as the closest available proxy for action regret. The survey contains no direct "do you regret giving the gift?" question, so this is a financial-harm proxy, not a measured-regret reading. The narrower 7% (postponed retirement by ~4 years) and 14% (felt less financially secure) are more severe but less common harms from the same survey.
Источники: бездействие
Реестр утверждений
Каждое число ниже — это то, что сообщил источник, с дословной цитатой, на которую мы опирались, и тем, как мы пришли к нашей цифре. Нажмите на ссылку, чтобы проверить самостоятельно.
1/2 источников независимо дословно сверены с указанным источником
[1]LendingTree — Survey: Down Payment Help on Current Home
Проверено
Первичное исследование
40% of homeowners received financial help on their current home; 16% say their parents helped with the down payment; 35% of those who received help say they could not have bought their home when they did without it
Выдержка
“"40% of homeowners received financial help on their current home, up from 35% in 2023. ... 16% of homeowners say their parents helped with their down payment, increasing to 27% among Gen Zers. ... More than a third (35%) of those who got down payment help on their current home say they couldn't have bought it when they did without that assistance."
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Выдержка независимо повторно загружена и подтверждена слово в слово по указанному источнику в ходе нашей проверки достоверности.
Расчёт
LendingTree's 2026 Mortgage Down Payment Survey (QuestionPro online survey of 2,060 US consumers ages 18-80, fielded March 17-23, 2026). This is a RECIPIENT survey, not a survey of non-helping parents. It is used as the housing-access-barrier proxy for the inaction side: 35% of recipients say they could not have bought their home when they did without family help, which quantifies the stake withheld when a parent declines to give. It does not measure whether non-helping parents regret that choice -- no direct survey of that population was located.
[2]Bankrate — Survey: 61% Of Parents With Adult Children Have Sacrificed To Help Their Kids Financially
Первичное исследование
61% of parents of children age 18 or older are currently sacrificing, or have sacrificed, financially to help their adult children; 37% sacrificed retirement savings, 43% emergency savings
Выдержка
“"More than 3 in 5 (61 percent) parents/guardians of children age 18 or older are currently sacrificing, or have sacrificed, financially to provide assistance to their adult children. ... Parents are least likely to sacrifice their retirement savings in order to help their adult children financially."
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Данные источника:
2024-05-01
Дата обращения
2026-06-30
Расчёт
Bankrate survey (YouGov Plc online survey of 2,377 US adults, of whom 837 are parents of adult children age 18+, fielded April 15-17, 2024). This source documents the HELPING-parent population -- 61% have made some financial sacrifice to assist adult children, with 37% sacrificing retirement savings and 43% emergency savings. It does NOT measure non-helping parents' regret. It is cited here only as context on how commonly parents sacrifice to help, not as the source of the inaction proxy rate (which comes from the LendingTree barrier figure above).
Оговорки
Neither side has a direct regret survey, so this is a proxy_only entry. The action-side 15% measures concrete financial harm (Legal & General / Money: parents who accepted a lower standard of living after helping), not a direct "do you regret giving?" response; the true action-regret rate could be higher or lower. The inaction-side 35% is a housing-access-barrier proxy (LendingTree: recipients who say they could not have bought without family help) -- it quantifies what is withheld when a parent declines, not the regret of non-helping parents, for which no direct survey was located. The two sides therefore measure different populations (giving parents vs. helped buyers) and are not strictly comparable as like-for-like regret rates. Both proxies are sensitive to local housing-market conditions: where home prices have risen substantially since the decision, the inaction barrier looms larger. This entry is most relevant to upper-middle-income families where a down-payment gift is a genuine financial choice rather than an impossibility; for most median-income parents the question may not be discretionary. The gap narrows for parents who are themselves approaching or in retirement with limited liquid assets.
