Commencer une thérapie de couple/conjugale vs. ne pas aller en thérapie de couple
Si vous agissez
Aller en thérapie de couple
27%
Si vous n’agissez pas
Ne pas chercher de thérapie de couple
33%
Pourcentage de personnes qui regrettent ensuite chaque choix. Les barres et le registre complet s’affichent ci-dessous.
Famille
Dernière révision 2026-05-22
Qualité des preuves 4.38/5
Score d’évaluation en huit dimensions selon la
grille de qualité
. Chaque dimension notée de 1 à 5.
D1 Vérification des sources
5/5
D2 Autorité et indépendance des sources
5/5
D3 Précision du taux de regret
4/5
D4 Comparabilité des sources
2/5
D5 Motif de Gilovich
5/5
D6 Qualité de la prose
5/5
D7 Complétude des réserves
5/5
D8 Qualité de l’échantillon
4/5
Moyenne4.38/5
Données de substitution — aucune enquête directe sur les regrets n'existe pour cette décision. Les taux sont dérivés des scores de satisfaction et des obstacles d'accès plutôt que de questions portant directement sur les regrets. Voir les mises en garde ci-dessous.
Regret d'action
Aller en thérapie de couple
27%
~29% des couples suivant une thérapie divorcent ou montrent une détérioration cliniquement significative dans les 5 ans (proxy de regret basé sur le résultat)
Couples mariés en grande détresse inscrits dans des essais cliniques randomisés de thérapie de couple, échantillons cliniques américains
suivi de 5 ans après la fin du traitement
Regret d'inaction
Ne pas chercher de thérapie de couple
33%
~42% des couples qui n'assistent jamais à une thérapie de couple font face à un divorce ou à une détresse relationnelle non résolue (proxy de regret d'inaction)
Couples mariés en détresse qui ne cherchent pas de thérapie de couple, données de résultats tirées des contrôles sans traitement et des données de divorce de la population américaine
transversale et longitudinale ; multiples fenêtres d'étude
% regrettent ce choix
Aller en thérapie de coupleNe pas chercher de thérapie de couple
27%33%
inaction dominates — L'inaction domine — la plupart regrettent de ne pas avoir agi.
Décisions associées
Décisions sémantiquement similaires — même terrain, compromis différents.
Among couples who entered couple therapy in the most rigorous available randomised trial, 26-28% were separated or divorced at the 5-year follow-up, and only 48% showed sustained clinically significant improvement (Christensen et al., 2010, n=134 chronically distressed couples). Among US adults broadly, 66% have never attended or considered couple therapy (Grow Therapy/YouGov, December 2025, n=2,514), and nationally about a third of first marriages end in separation or divorce within 10 years (CDC/NCHS, National Survey of Family Growth) — a structural floor for the harm distressed non-attenders face, since deterioration among that sub-population runs higher still. The bilateral comparison points consistently toward inaction dominating: couples who do not seek help rarely improve on their own, and relationship distress compounds over the 2.68 years (Doherty et al., 2021, n=270) the average help-seeking couple waits before entering therapy — let alone for the much larger group that never goes at all.
The action-side data require careful reading. The Christensen trial recruited seriously and chronically distressed couples who volunteered for a clinical research program — a help-motivated, high-distress sample unlikely to represent the full range of couples who attend therapy in everyday clinical practice. Of the 26-28% who divorced within 5 years, many had entered therapy precisely to manage an already-failing relationship; the Grow Therapy survey finding that 56% of divorced therapy-attenders described their attendance as “a final attempt to prevent a split” suggests purposeful rather than regret-laden attendance. At the same time, only 56% of couples who showed clinically significant improvement at end of treatment maintained that improvement at the 5-year mark (Baucom et al., 2015), confirming that gains are not durable for a substantial minority. The 27% action-side proxy is the directly-measured separation/divorce rate; because only 48% of couples showed durable improvement, it likely understates outcome-based regret rather than overstating it.
The inaction side is harder to measure directly because no large-scale survey asks people who never attended therapy whether they regret that decision. The 33% inaction proxy is the CDC/NCHS National Survey of Family Growth probability that a first marriage ends in separation or divorce within 10 years, used as a conservative structural floor: distressed couples who receive no treatment rarely improve on their own, meaning actual deterioration or dissolution among relationship-distressed non-attenders is higher than this all-first-marriage figure. The 6-percentage-point inaction-dominance gap should not be read as a precise effect size; the uncertainty on the inaction side is wide and the true rate for distressed non-attenders is likely substantially higher than 33%. Both the action and inaction estimates share a common limitation: they reflect outcomes, not regret, and outcome data systematically miss the couples who were distressed, never sought help, and eventually experienced relationship improvement that made them glad they never went.
Sources : action
Registre des sources
Chaque chiffre ci-dessous correspond à ce que la source a rapporté, avec la citation textuelle sur laquelle nous nous sommes appuyés et la méthode de calcul. Cliquez sur un lien pour vérifier directement.
2/2 sources vérifiées de manière indépendante, mot pour mot, par rapport à la source citée
[1]Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology — Marital Status and Satisfaction Five Years Following a Randomized Clinical Trial Comparing Traditional Versus Integrative Behavioral Couple Therapy
Vérifié
Revue par les pairs
At 5-year follow-up, 25.7% of IBCT and 27.9% of TBCT couples were separated or divorced; 48% (combined average) showed clinically significant improvement; effect sizes d=1.03 (IBCT) and d=0.92 (TBCT) for satisfaction vs pretreatment
Extrait
“"At 5-year follow-up for marital satisfaction relative to pretreatment, effect sizes were d = 1.03 for IBCT and d = 0.92 for TBCT; 50.0% of IBCT couples and 45.9% of TBCT couples showed clinically significant improvement. 25.7% of IBCT couples and 27.9% of TBCT couples were separated or divorced."
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Données source de
2010-04-01
Consulté le
2026-05-22
Vérification
Extrait récupéré et confirmé de manière indépendante, mot pour mot, par rapport à la source citée lors de notre audit de vérification.
Calcul
Christensen, Atkins, Baucom & Yi (2010), Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, 78(2):225-235. PMID 20350033. RCT of 134 seriously and chronically distressed married couples randomly assigned to ~8 months of IBCT or TBCT. At 5-year follow-up, marital status was obtained for all 134 couples; at least one partner in 119 (89%) completed satisfaction measures. Combined separation/divorce rate: (25.7 + 27.9) / 2 = 26.8%, rounded to 0.27 — this directly-measured separation/divorce rate is the action-side regret proxy. The separation/divorce outcome does not capture direct regret: a couple that divorces may still regard entering therapy as the right decision, and a couple that remains together but is unhappy may deeply regret having gone. Only 48% (combined) showed clinically significant improvement at 5 years, so the 0.27 proxy likely understates the share who regret the outcome; it is retained as the sole directly-measured figure rather than inflated with an unmeasured deterioration adjustment.
[2]Journal of Family Psychology (PMC) — Prediction of Treatment Response at 5-year Follow-up in a Randomized Clinical Trial of Behaviorally Based Couple Therapies
Vérifié
Revue par les pairs
Only 56% of couples who showed clinically significant improvement at treatment termination still showed improvement at the 5-year follow-up; substantial between-couple variability in long-term outcomes
Extrait
“"Only 56% of couples who reported clinically significant improvement or recovery at treatment termination also reported clinically significant improvement or recovery at the five year follow-up."
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Données source de
2015-01-01
Consulté le
2026-05-22
Vérification
Extrait récupéré et confirmé de manière indépendante, mot pour mot, par rapport à la source citée lors de notre audit de vérification.
Calcul
Baucom, Atkins, Rowe, Doss & Christensen (2015), Journal of Family Psychology, 28(5):711-720. PMC4324126. Same 134-couple RCT dataset with 5-year follow-up data from Christensen et al. (2010). The 56% figure (of those who improved at end of treatment, only 56% maintained improvement at 5 years) corroborates the action-side durability caveat: even among couples who responded to therapy, relapse is common. This source is included to show that the action-side regret proxy (0.27) may understate outcome-based regret given the high rate of deterioration even among initial treatment responders; it does not independently generate the 0.27 figure.
Sources : inaction
Registre des sources
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[1]Grow Therapy / YouGov — 2026 Couples Therapy Survey: Growing Stronger Together
Source de référence
Survey of 2,514 US adults (YouGov, December 2025): 66% have never attended couple therapy and never considered it; 56% of divorced therapy-attenders described it as a final attempt to prevent a split; 19% realized their relationship was no longer sustainable after attending
Extrait
“"71% saw noticeable improvement in their relationship. 19% realized their relationship was no longer sustainable after attending. 66% have never attended and never considered it. 56% of divorced individuals tried couples therapy described their attendance as a final attempt to prevent a split."
”
Données source de
2025-12-22
Consulté le
2026-05-22
Calcul
Grow Therapy / YouGov online panel, n=2,514 US adults 18+, fieldwork December 18-22, 2025, weighted to represent US adult population. This survey establishes the help-seeking context for the inaction side: 66% of US adults have never attended and never considered couple therapy, and 19% of those who did attend realized their relationship was no longer sustainable. The survey does NOT report a divorce or regret rate for non-attenders, so it cannot by itself fix the inaction-side proxy. The inaction regret rate (0.33) is therefore grounded in the CDC/NCHS National Survey of Family Growth (added as a co-source below): the probability of a first marriage ending in separation or divorce is 33% within 10 years. That directly-measured national dissolution rate is used as a structural floor for the inaction outcome. Because distressed couples who never seek therapy dissolve at higher rates than the general first-marriage population (see caveats), 0.33 is a conservative lower bound, not a central estimate. No large-scale survey directly asks non-attenders whether they regret not having sought therapy; the inaction proxy therefore substitutes the measurable dissolution outcome for unmeasured regret.
[2]CDC / National Center for Health Statistics — Cohabitation, Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage in the United States (NCHS, National Survey of Family Growth)
Rapport gouvernemental
Probability of a first marriage ending in separation or divorce is 20% within 5 years and 33% within 10 years (National Survey of Family Growth)
Extrait
“"The probability of a first marriage ending in separation or divorce within 5 years is 20 percent... After 10 years, the probability of a first marriage ending is 33 percent."
”
Données source de
2002-07-01
Consulté le
2026-07-10
Calcul
CDC/NCHS, Vital and Health Statistics Series 23, Number 22 (July 2002), "Cohabitation, Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage in the United States," based on the National Survey of Family Growth, cited verbatim via the NCHS blog (blogs.cdc.gov/nchs/2007/07/06/7111/). The 10-year first-marriage separation/divorce probability of 33% is used directly as the inaction-side regret proxy (0.33): a nationally-measured dissolution outcome standing in as a structural floor for the relationship harm experienced by couples who do not seek therapy. This is the authoritative figure that replaces the previously-displayed 0.42, which had been anchored to an uncited "~39-42%" estimate not present in this entry's sources. Distressed non-attenders (the sub-population most relevant to this decision) dissolve at higher rates than the all-first-marriage average, so 0.33 is a conservative lower bound rather than a central estimate for that group.
[3]Journal of Marital and Family Therapy (Wiley) — How long do people wait before seeking couples therapy? A research note
Revue par les pairs
First large-sample study on delay: average 2.68 years from onset of serious relationship problems to entering couple therapy (N=270 couples); majority entered within 2 years, challenging the widely cited but unsupported 6-year figure
Extrait
“"We found an average interval of 2.68 years from onset of problems and entering couples therapy, with the great majority of couples entering therapy within two years."
”
Données source de
2021-01-06
Consulté le
2026-05-22
Calcul
Doherty WJ, Harris SM, Hall EL, Hubbard AK (2021), Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, 47(4):882-890. doi: 10.1111/jmft.12479. PMID 33411353. N=270 couples attending couple therapy, N=101 in individual therapy for relationship problems. This study is included as the inaction-side corroborating source because the 2.68-year average delay shows that even couples who eventually seek help do so after extended periods of unresolved distress. For the much larger share of distressed couples who never seek therapy at all (66% per the Grow Therapy/YouGov survey), the period of unresolved distress is indefinite. This supports the inaction regret direction: delayed or absent help-seeking is the modal behaviour, and the accumulated period of relationship deterioration before entry (or without it) is the most plausible source of inaction regret.
Réserves
MESURES PROXY DES DEUX CÔTÉS. Aucun côté n'utilise une enquête de regret direct. Le taux côté action (0,29) provient du suivi RCT à 5 ans de Christensen et al. sur 134 couples mariés gravement et chroniquement en détresse : le taux combiné de séparation/divorce de ~27% est utilisé comme proxy principal, le 0,29 étant arrondi vers le haut légèrement pour capturer les couples détériorés-mais-pas-encore-divorcés cohérents avec Lebow & Snyder (2022). Le divorce ou la détérioration n'équivaut pas à regretter d'avoir suivi une thérapie : les couples qui sont entrés en thérapie spécifiquement pour gérer une séparation saine peuvent ne pas regretter d'y être allés, et les 56% des participants divorcés dans l'enquête Grow Therapy qui l'ont décrite comme une « dernière tentative » impliquent une participation intentionnelle, pas de la naïveté. Le taux côté inaction (0,42) est ancré au taux de divorce de la population américaine (~39-42%, CDC/NCHS) comme limite structurelle inférieure. Parmi les non-participants spécifiquement en détresse relationnelle, les taux de détérioration sont plus élevés que le taux général de divorce de la population ; Lebow & Snyder (2022, Family Process) notent « peu d'amélioration de la satisfaction relationnelle chez les couples en détresse qui ne reçoivent pas de thérapie », faisant de 0,42 un plancher conservateur plutôt qu'une estimation centrale. Aucune enquête nationale à grande échelle ne mesure directement le regret chez les couples qui n'ont jamais cherché de thérapie ; le proxy d'inaction confond donc inévitablement le manque de recherche d'aide avec le préjudice relationnel, qui sont corrélés mais pas identiques. Les deux populations ne sont pas directement comparables : le côté action s'inspire d'un RCT de 134 couples chroniquement et gravement en détresse qui se sont portés volontaires pour un essai clinique (un échantillon sélectionné, motivé par l'aide, à forte détresse), tandis que le côté inaction est inféré à partir de la population adulte américaine y compris les couples dont les relations ne sont pas en détresse aiguë. L'échantillon de Christensen et al. peut surestimer la détérioration côté action par rapport aux échantillons cliniques réels ; à l'inverse, le plancher d'inaction de 0,42 sous-estime probablement la détérioration parmi la sous-population en détresse la plus pertinente pour la décision encadrée ici. Cette entrée est distincte de therapy-vs-no-therapy.mdx (thérapie individuelle) : la thérapie de couple nécessite la participation simultanée des deux partenaires, est contre-indiquée dans les situations de violence domestique active, et a une base de preuves et un mécanisme de changement différents. La conclusion de Doherty et al. (2021) selon laquelle les couples attendent en moyenne 2,68 ans avant d'entrer en thérapie (et non les six ans largement cités mais non étayés) réduit modestement l'intensité du cadrage d'inaction : le couple typique en recherche d'aide n'attend pas indéfiniment, bien que la plupart des couples en détresse ne cherchent jamais d'aide.
