Memiliki anak lagi vs. berhenti di ukuran keluarga saat ini
Jika Anda bertindak
Punya anak lagi
14%
Jika Anda tidak bertindak
Berhenti di jumlah anak saat ini
37%
Persentase orang yang kemudian menyesali setiap pilihan. Diagram batang dan catatan lengkap ditampilkan di bawah.
Family
Terakhir ditinjau 2026-05-13
Kualitas bukti 4.25/5
Skor tinjauan delapan dimensi terhadap
rubrik kualitas
. Setiap dimensi dinilai 1–5.
D1 Verifikasi sumber
4/5
D2 Otoritas & independensi sumber
4/5
D3 Akurasi tingkat penyesalan
3/5
D4 Keterbandingan sumber
4/5
D5 Pola Gilovich
5/5
D6 Kualitas prosa
5/5
D7 Kelengkapan peringatan
5/5
D8 Kualitas sampel
4/5
Rata-rata4.25/5
Penyesalan atas tindakan
Punya anak lagi
14%
~14% orang tua mengatakan mereka berharap punya anak lebih sedikit (penyesalan ukuran-keluarga kumulatif, bukan penyesalan atas satu anak tambahan tertentu)
Orang tua dalam penelitian kualitatif dan survei lintas-negara
retrospektif, tidak ada kerangka waktu tetap
Penyesalan atas kelambanan
Berhenti di jumlah anak saat ini
37%
~37% orang dewasa AS berharap punya anak lebih banyak daripada yang mereka miliki sekarang (ukuran aspirasi yang menggabungkan orang tua dan yang belum pernah menjadi orang tua, bukan instrumen langsung 'saya menyesal berhenti')
Orang dewasa AS (orang tua dan bukan orang tua digabungkan), representatif nasional
retrospektif, tidak ada kerangka waktu tetap
% menyesal dengan pilihan ini
Punya anak lagiBerhenti di jumlah anak saat ini
14%37%
inaction dominates — Tidak bertindak mendominasi — sebagian besar menyesali karena tidak bertindak.
Keputusan terkait
Keputusan yang serupa secara semantik — area yang sama, kompromi yang berbeda.
The Institute for Family Studies surveyed 1,518 US adults in 2021 and found a persistent asymmetry in how people feel about their family size decisions. The single largest group — 37% of all adults, whether currently parents or not — wish they had more children than they currently have, while 14% of parents wish they had fewer. The two figures are not symmetric instruments: the 37% is a wish-for-more aspiration that bundles parents who want another child (~24% of adults) with never-parents who still hope to start (~13%), and the 14% is cumulative family-size regret across all parities rather than regret about one specific additional child. No US survey isolates regret about a single marginal child, so the action side uses the published 14% with that broader-construct caveat made explicit. The qualitative literature on parental regret (Donath 2015, Signs) establishes the phenomenon as real and studied but supplies no prevalence rate. The desire-for-more gap reported by IFS is structural: Americans’ stated ideal family size has risen to a 50-year high while actual birth rates have fallen, meaning the aspiration-actuality divergence is widening, not narrowing.
The Gilovich and Medvec inaction-dominance model predicts that long-run regrets accumulate more on the side of things left undone than things done. The fertility evidence fits this prediction. Parents who had one more child and feel stretched rarely express the kind of persistent, escalating regret that would exceed the regret of those who stopped and later wished they had not. The IFS data show that the “wish for fewer” group among parents (14%) is well under half the size of the “wish for more” group (37% of all adults; ~24% among current parents alone), consistent with inaction-dominance. Across the population, the wish-for-more group substantially outnumbers the wish-for-fewer group, a separate signal that under-reproduction is more commonly regretted than over-reproduction.
Several limitations qualify the comparison. The action-side 14% is the published IFS figure for parents who wish they had had fewer children, but it measures cumulative family-size regret across all parities, not regret about one specific additional child — no US survey isolates the marginal-child construct, so the rate is broader than the entry’s strict “one more?” framing. The inaction-side 37% is the published wish-for-more figure, but it bundles never-parents who never made a stopping decision, so it overstates retrospective regret about voluntarily stopping. A significant share of “stopping” decisions are involuntary — fertility decline, partner disagreement, financial constraints — meaning that many people counted in the inaction side did not face a clean choice to have another child and declined; conflating structural barriers with decisional inaction can inflate the inaction-regret estimate. The IFS sources are from a think tank with a stated pro-family orientation, though the underlying survey data (US Adult Sexual Behaviors and Attitudes Study) is publicly available. Both sides of this entry measure wish-for-more or wish-for-fewer as a current preference, not a retrospective decision-regret with a validated instrument; the gap is directionally robust but should not be read as a precisely calibrated effect size.
Sumber: tindakan
Buku besar klaim
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1/2 sumber diverifikasi secara independen kata demi kata terhadap sumber terkutip
[1]Institute for Family Studies / Lyman Stone — To Have Kids or Not: Which Decision Do Americans Regret More?
Terverifikasi
↗ 1 other entry
Sumber referensi
14% of people with children agreed 'I wish I had had fewer children' (equal to 10% of all adults); this is cumulative family-size regret across all parities, not regret about one specific additional child
Kutipan
“"Just 14% of people with children (10% of all adults) agreed with the statement [that they wish they had had fewer children]."
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Data sumber dari
2021-12-08
Diakses
2026-06-30
Verifikasi
Kutipan diambil ulang secara independen dan dikonfirmasi kata demi kata terhadap sumber terkutip selama audit pendasaran kami.
Perhitungan
Institute for Family Studies analysis of the US Adult Sexual Behaviors and Attitudes Study (wave 2, March 2021, n=1,518 US adults, nationally representative). The action-side regret rate for this entry (0.14) is the directly published figure: 14% of people with children agreed "I wish I had had fewer children." This is the broadest available measure of parental child-regret in the US, and the regret_display labels it honestly as cumulative family-size regret — it captures parents who wish any child had not been born, spanning parents at all parities, and is NOT restricted to regret about a marginal one-more addition. No published US survey isolates regret about having one additional child beyond the current family size, so the entry uses the published 14% with a matching construct label rather than fabricating a smaller marginal-child number. (A prior version of this entry used an unpublished 8% downward adjustment fused with a qualitative paper to fit the "one more?" framing; that adjustment was not in any source and has been removed.) D3 score: 3 (real nationally representative survey, directly published figure; construct is family-size regret, broader than the entry's strict marginal-child framing — labeled as such).
[2]Signs: Journal of Women in Culture and Society — Regretting Motherhood: A Sociopolitical Analysis
Telaah sejawat
Qualitative analysis establishing parental regret as a legitimate, studied societal experience; the paper supplies no prevalence rate
Kutipan
“[Paraphrase from published abstract — full text paywalled. Donath (2015) argues that regretting motherhood is a legitimate societal experience that challenges the assumption all mothers love motherhood. The paper draws on qualitative interviews with Israeli mothers who regret having children and situates regret within feminist and sociological theory. The paper does not report a single national prevalence figure but provides a conceptual framework used in subsequent quantitative work.]
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Data sumber dari
2015-01-01
Diakses
2026-05-13
Perhitungan
Donath, O. (2015). Regretting Motherhood: A Sociopolitical Analysis. Signs: Journal of Women in Culture and Society, 40(2), 343-367. https://doi.org/10.1086/678145. This is a landmark qualitative-feminist paper that opened systematic inquiry into parental regret; it supplies no prevalence rate. Included as peer-reviewed methodological support for the action side, confirming that parental regret is a real, studied phenomenon. The quantitative rate (0.14) comes entirely from the IFS/Stone survey analysis above; Donath is not used to derive any number.
Sumber: tidak bertindak
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2/2 sumber diverifikasi secara independen kata demi kata terhadap sumber terkutip
[1]Institute for Family Studies / Lyman Stone — To Have Kids or Not: Which Decision Do Americans Regret More?
Terverifikasi
↗ 1 other entry
Sumber referensi
37% of US adults — the single largest group — wish they had more children than they currently have, whether currently parents or not; 24% already have children but still want more and 13% have no children but still hope to
Kutipan
“"A third (34%) have children and are happy with the number they have and another third—the largest group—wish they had more (37%), whether currently parents or not."
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Data sumber dari
2021-12-08
Diakses
2026-06-30
Verifikasi
Kutipan diambil ulang secara independen dan dikonfirmasi kata demi kata terhadap sumber terkutip selama audit pendasaran kami.
Perhitungan
Institute for Family Studies analysis of the US Adult Sexual Behaviors and Attitudes Study (wave 2, March 2021, n=1,518 US adults, nationally representative). The verbatim excerpt identifies the satisfied group as 34% and the wish-for-more group as 37% ("whether currently parents or not"). The inaction-side rate for this entry is the directly published 0.37 wish-for-more figure, NOT the 0.34 that labels the satisfied-with-current-count group (a prior version of this entry mistakenly borrowed the 34% number, an inversion that has been corrected). The 37% is composed of ~24% who already have children and still want more and ~13% who have no children but still hope to — so it bundles parents and never-parents. The regret_display labels this honestly as an aspiration measure that is NOT a retrospective "I regret stopping" instrument: it captures a current wish-for-more preference, and a substantial share of the group (the ~13% never-parents) never made any stopping decision at all. D3 score: 3 (real nationally representative survey, directly published figure; construct is wish-for-more aspiration, broader than and not identical to regret about voluntarily stopping — labeled as such).
[2]Institute for Family Studies — Americans' Desire for Large Families Hits 50-Year High
Terverifikasi
↗ 1 other entry
Sumber referensi
45% of Americans now see three or more children as the ideal family size — the highest share since the late 1960s — up from 38% in 2013, widening the gap between desired and actual fertility
Kutipan
“"Today, 45% of Americans see three or more children as ideal, a steep increase from 38% in 2013 and from 33% in 2003. Not since the sweeping social changes of the late 1960s have more Americans considered a larger family of three or more children ideal."
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Data sumber dari
2023-06-28
Diakses
2026-06-30
Verifikasi
Kutipan diambil ulang secara independen dan dikonfirmasi kata demi kata terhadap sumber terkutip selama audit pendasaran kami.
Perhitungan
IFS analysis of Gallup Social Series data on ideal family size. Confirms that the aspiration-actuality gap is widening over time, supporting the wish-for-more direction as durable rather than a one-survey artifact. Included as corroborating trend evidence; the primary inaction-side rate (0.37) is drawn from the Stone (2021) SABES survey above.
Catatan
Entri ini berbeda dari entri ukuran-keluarga yang ada, yang membingkai pertanyaan sebagai "berharap lebih sedikit vs lebih banyak di seluruh ukuran keluarga." Entri ini berfokus khusus pada keputusan marginal berhenti vs punya satu anak tambahan. Kedua entri berbagi sebagian data sumber tetapi menanyakan pertanyaan yang berbeda; pengguna yang menghadapi keputusan spesifik "satu lagi?" adalah audiens yang dituju di sini. Tingkat 0,14 di sisi tindakan adalah angka IFS yang diterbitkan langsung: 14% orang tua berharap punya anak lebih sedikit. Angka itu mencakup orang tua di semua paritas dan menangkap penyesalan ukuran-keluarga kumulatif alih-alih penyesalan khusus atas satu tambahan marginal — tidak ada survei AS yang mengisolasi penyesalan anak-marginal, sehingga angka 14% yang diterbitkan digunakan dengan label konstruk yang cocok alih-alih penyesuaian-turun yang tak diterbitkan. Angka 0,37 di sisi ketidaktindakan adalah angka berharap-lebih-banyak IFS yang diterbitkan langsung; ia menggabungkan orang tua yang menginginkan lebih banyak anak (~24% orang dewasa) dan yang belum pernah menjadi orang tua tetapi masih berharap punya anak (~13%), sehingga merupakan ukuran aspirasi, bukan instrumen langsung "saya menyesal berhenti" — dan sebagian besarnya (mereka yang belum pernah menjadi orang tua) tidak pernah membuat keputusan berhenti apa pun. Sebagian bermakna dari keputusan berhenti bersifat tidak sukarela (keterbatasan fertilitas, ketidaksepakatan pasangan, kendala keuangan, kesehatan), yang mempersulit kerangka tindakan/ketidaktindakan — orang yang menginginkan lebih banyak tetapi tidak bisa punya lebih banyak tidak membuat ketidaktindakan sukarela dalam pengertian yang sama seperti orang yang memilih berhenti. Makalah Donath (2015) berbayar teks-penuh dan klaim sentralnya bersifat kualitatif-feminis alih-alih kuantitatif-epidemiologis; ia disertakan untuk menetapkan dasar peer-reviewed bagi konstruk sisi-tindakan. Kedua sumber IFS berasal dari wadah pemikir dengan orientasi pro-keluarga yang dinyatakan, yang mungkin memengaruhi pembingkaian dan penekanan; data yang mendasarinya (GSS, SABES) tersedia untuk umum dan dapat direproduksi secara independen.
