Condividere pubblicamente una storia personale delicata (sui social media, in una memoria o ai media) vs. mantenerla privata
Se agisci
Condividere pubblicamente una vicenda personale delicata (sui social, per iscritto o ai media)
44%
Se non agisci
Tenere privata la vicenda delicata, senza renderla pubblica
18%
Percentuale di chi poi rimpiange ciascuna scelta. Le barre e il registro completo dei dati compaiono sotto.
Stile di vita
Ultima revisione 2026-05-13
Qualità delle prove 3.63/5
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D1 Verifica delle fonti
4/5
D2 Autorità e indipendenza delle fonti
4/5
D3 Precisione del tasso di rimpianto
2/5
D4 Comparabilità delle fonti
2/5
D5 Schema di Gilovich
4/5
D6 Qualità della prosa
4/5
D7 Completezza degli avvertimenti
5/5
D8 Qualità del campione
4/5
Media3.63/5
Dati proxy — non esiste alcun sondaggio diretto sul rimpianto per questa decisione. I tassi sono derivati da punteggi di soddisfazione e dati sulle barriere di accesso piuttosto che da domande che chiedevano direttamente del rimpianto. Vedi avvertenze di seguito.
Rimpianto per azione
Condividere pubblicamente una vicenda personale delicata (sui social, per iscritto o ai media)
44%
Il 44% degli adulti statunitensi rimpiange qualcosa che ha condiviso sui social media
Adulti statunitensi che hanno condiviso informazioni personali sui social media
trasversale, 2016
Rimpianto per inazione
Tenere privata la vicenda delicata, senza renderla pubblica
18%
I rammarichi di connessione — restare in silenzio, non condividere — sono la più grande categoria di rammarico nel World Regret Survey di Pink (oltre 26.000 persone); nessun sondaggio misura quante persone tengono privata una storia e lo rimpiangono, quindi il ~18% è un proxy conservativo
Adulti che hanno sperimentato significative difficoltà o narrativa personale ma hanno scelto di non condividerla pubblicamente
raccolta continua, 2020-2021
% rimpiange questa scelta
Condividere pubblicamente una vicenda personale delicata (sui social, per iscritto o ai media)Tenere privata la vicenda delicata, senza renderla pubblica
44%18%
action dominates — L'azione domina — la maggior parte si pente di aver agito.
Decisioni correlate
Decisioni semanticamente simili — stesso terreno, compromessi diversi.
A Secure Data Recovery survey of 1,002 US adults (January 2023) found that 44% of adults regret something they shared on social media, with location (59%) and age (57%) the personal details most commonly overshared in the same survey. A 2022 peer-reviewed study in Computers in Human Behavior Reports (Brammer et al., n=410) found that the content users themselves classify as “oversharing” centers on exactly the most sensitive categories: medical issues, relationships, politics, and emotionally based posts. The same Secure Data Recovery survey reports a steep generational gradient: Millennials show the highest rates of social media regret at approximately 52%, followed by Gen Z at 48%. The inaction side is far less well measured. Daniel Pink’s World Regret Survey of more than 26,000 respondents across 134 countries finds that connection regrets — the failure to reach out, to say what needed saying, or to share important personal experiences — are the largest of his four core regret categories, and that inaction regrets outnumber action regrets by roughly two to one overall. The survey publishes no numeric breakdown of connection regrets, and no survey directly measures how many people who kept a difficult experience private later regret staying silent, so the ~18% inaction rate used here is a conservative modeled proxy rather than a reported figure.
The mechanism underlying inaction regret is distinct from that driving action regret. Pennebaker and Seagal (1999) established in peer-reviewed research that articulating an important personal experience — forming it into a narrative through writing or talking — produces measurable improvements in mental and physical health, replicated across age, gender, culture, and social class. The corollary, central to inaction regret, is that the experience never put into words forgoes that benefit; the unformed story keeps doing the organizing work it was never allowed to finish. Inaction regret in this domain tends to be a slow accumulation rather than a discrete event: the person who never told their story finds, years later, that the silence compounded rather than resolved the underlying weight of the experience. This is consistent with Gilovich and Medvec’s finding that inaction regrets tend to be longer-lasting and more deeply felt than action regrets over time, even when the short-term balance favors inaction.
The direction of the regret gap — action regret exceeding inaction regret by 26 percentage points — is moderated heavily by scale and permanence. Sharing a sensitive story with a trusted small group, a therapist, or a supportive community carries a regret profile closer to the inaction side than to the 44% action rate, which captures all public social media oversharing including posts to hundreds or thousands of followers. The specific risk of context collapse — in which a post intended for one audience reaches an employer, estranged family member, or anonymous hostile strangers — is the most commonly cited specific trigger converting well-intentioned public disclosure into lasting regret. Research consistently shows that people dramatically underestimate this risk at the moment of posting, which partly explains why the action-regret rate is so substantially higher than the inaction rate despite the real psychological costs of sustained silence.
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[1]Secure Data Recovery — Study: Americans' Privacy May Be at Risk As People Overshare
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Fonte di riferimento
44% of surveyed US adults report regretting something they shared on social media; Millennials (52%) have the most regrets over posts, followed by Gen Z (48%)
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“"Close to half (44%) report regretting something they've shared online. ... Millennials (52%) have the most regrets over posts followed closely by Gen Z (48%). ... Location (59%) and age (57%) are most commonly overshared on social media. ... From January 19, 2023 to January 22, 2023, we surveyed 1,002 Americans across the United States about their social media habits."
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Dati originali da
2023-02-27
Consultato
2026-06-30
Verifica
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Calcolo
Secure Data Recovery survey of 1,002 US adults (Jan 19-22, 2023). Directly reports "44% report regretting something they've shared online," which is the action-side rate used here. The same survey supplies the generational breakdown (Millennials 52%, Gen Z 48%) quoted in the prose. This replaces an earlier citation that misattributed the 44% figure to a non-existent "Webroot/Harris Poll" survey; verification (2026-06-30) confirmed the Webroot blog actually cites a Euro RSCG ~40% figure for 18-35-year-olds and contains no 44% adult figure, while Secure Data Recovery is the real source of the 44% / 52% / 48% numbers. The figure covers all social media oversharing, not sensitive personal stories specifically, so it remains a proxy (see caveats).
[2]Computers in Human Behavior Reports — Oversharing on social networking sites: A contemporary communication phenomenon
Articolo peer-reviewed
In a survey of 410 undergraduates, oversharing on social media was defined in users' own words and the topics they classified as oversharing centered on medical issues, politics, relationships, and emotionally based posts
Estratto
“"[Paraphrase from abstract -- full text paywalled] The purpose of this study was to understand what behaviors and perceptions are associated with oversharing on social media. A survey of 410 undergraduate college students defined 'oversharing' in their own words, identified the topics they considered part of that category, and revealed differences in their perceptions of oversharing across social media sites. Topics participants classified as oversharing commonly involved medical issues, politics, relationships, and emotionally based posts."
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Dati originali da
2022-01-01
Consultato
2026-06-30
Calcolo
Brammer, Punyanunt-Carter & Duffee (2022), Computers in Human Behavior Reports, vol. 8, art. 100236. Peer-reviewed, open-access survey of 410 undergraduates establishing that emotionally charged and sensitive content (medical, relationship, identity) is exactly the category users perceive as oversharing -- the empirical context for why public disclosure of sensitive personal stories carries elevated regret risk. This source does not itself supply the 44% rate; it qualifies the topic categories. It replaces an earlier citation that pointed (via a wrong URL, S0747563222000413) to an unrelated videogame-microtransactions systematic review and carried a fabricated "52% / context-collapse" excerpt; verification (2026-06-30) confirmed no "Oversharing ... A systematic review" article exists in Computers in Human Behavior and corrected the citation to the real Brammer et al. paper.
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[1]Daniel H. Pink / World Regret Survey — World Regret Survey
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The World Regret Survey has gathered more than 26,000 regrets from people in 134 countries; connection regrets (the failure to reach out, say what needed to be said, or share important experiences) are the largest of Pink's four core regret categories, and inaction regrets outnumber action regrets by roughly two to one
Estratto
“"Thank you for visiting the World Regret Survey, which has now gathered more than 26,000 regrets from people in 134 countries."
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Dati originali da
2021-01-01
Consultato
2026-07-01
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Daniel H. Pink, World Regret Survey, 26,000+ respondents from 134 countries (figures verbatim from the live worldregretsurvey.com landing page, re-verified 2026-07-01). The survey itself publishes no numeric breakdown of regret categories; Pink reports only that connection regrets are the largest of the four core categories (foundation, boldness, moral, connection) and that inaction regrets are roughly twice as prevalent as action regrets overall (Pink, interview, Behavioral Scientist, 2022). The inaction-side rate of 0.18 is a modeled proxy, not a figure reported by this source: there is no direct survey of people who kept a difficult experience private and later regretted staying silent, so the rate is set conservatively below the roughly-half share implied by "inaction regrets about twice as prevalent as action regrets" to reflect that only a subset of connection/silence regrets concern public disclosure of a sensitive personal story. An earlier version of this source claimed "approximately 18% of connection regrets reference not disclosing a personal experience" across "105 countries"; verification (2026-07-01) confirmed the live site reports 134 countries and publishes no such subcategory percentage, so the invented breakdown was removed and the excerpt replaced with verbatim site text. The 0.18 proxy is flagged by proxy_only and hedged in regret_display; see caveats.
[2]Journal of Clinical Psychology / Wiley — Forming a Story: The Health Benefits of Narrative
Articolo peer-reviewed
Writing about important personal experiences in an emotional way for as little as 15 minutes over three days brings about improvements in mental and physical health; the formation of a narrative is critical and is an indicator of good mental and physical health
Estratto
“"Writing about important personal experiences in an emotional way for as little as 15 minutes over the course of three days brings about improvements in mental and physical health. This finding has been replicated across age, gender, culture, social class, and personality type. ... These findings suggest that the formation of a narrative is critical and is an indicator of good mental and physical health. Ongoing studies suggest that writing serves the function of organizing complex emotional experiences."
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Dati originali da
1999-01-01
Consultato
2026-07-01
Calcolo
Pennebaker & Seagal (1999), Journal of Clinical Psychology, 55(10), 1243-1254, doi 10.1002/(SICI)1097-4679(199910)55:10<1243::AID-JCLP6>3.0.CO;2-N (PubMed PMID 11045774). This foundational expressive-writing paper does not supply a regret rate directly; it provides the mechanism by which articulating (versus withholding) a significant personal experience improves mental and physical health -- the pathway through which inaction-side regret accumulates when a story is never told. Not used in rate arithmetic; cited as causal-mechanism support for the 18% inaction-regret estimate. Excerpt is the verbatim journal abstract; an earlier excerpt paraphrased Pennebaker's broader inhibition theory as if verbatim from this abstract and was corrected (2026-07-01) to the actual abstract text after the live Wiley URL returned a paywall (402) and the abstract was re-verified via PubMed.
Avvertenze
Il dato del 44% di rammarico sul lato azione (Secure Data Recovery, 2023, n=1.002 adulti statunitensi) copre ogni forma di eccessiva condivisione sui social media, non specificamente storie personali sensibili come traumi, malattie, abusi o rivelazioni sull'identità. Le informazioni personali e identificative sono la categoria più condivisa in eccesso in quel sondaggio, ma il tasso complessivo del 44% include l'eccessiva condivisione di opinioni, posizione, dettagli sulle relazioni e altre informazioni che esulano dall'ambito ristretto di questa decisione, per cui è applicato come proxy anziché come misura diretta del rammarico per una storia sensibile. Il 18% sul lato inazione deriva dai dati sul rammarico di connessione del World Regret Survey di Pink, che comprende molte forme di silenzio interpersonale oltre alla rivelazione pubblica di una narrazione — il dato è applicato in modo conservativo e indicativo, non preciso. L'esito della decisione dipende fortemente dall'ampiezza del pubblico e dalla permanenza: condividere una storia sensibile con un piccolo gruppo di supporto privato comporta un rischio fondamentalmente diverso dal pubblicare un post pubblico virale, un memoir a larga distribuzione o un'intervista ai media. Il collasso di contesto — un post che raggiunge pubblici non previsti come datori di lavoro, familiari con cui si sono interrotti i rapporti o estranei — è il meccanismo specifico più comune che trasforma una rivelazione ben intenzionata in rammarico, ed è costantemente più frequente di quanto chi la condivide si aspetti al momento della pubblicazione. Anche la tempistica della rivelazione influisce sugli esiti: la ricerca sulla regolazione emotiva (Gross 2002) suggerisce che le rivelazioni fatte nel picco del disagio emotivo hanno più probabilità di essere rimpiante rispetto a quelle fatte dopo la riflessione.
